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Post by Soconfused on Apr 21, 2010 2:02:22 GMT -5
Dear abby,
Im not really sure if writing to you is good. I dont do this kind of stuff normally but... I guess. I dont really have anywhere else to go for advice. I think i might really like my best friend. I think we're best friends? Im not even sure... maybe we dont even have to worry about ruining... no thats not true. We're good friends... we must be. We hang out all the time Im pretty sure. Well... shes the first person that I've ever cared about to remember. I mean... we always have fun. And... im really comfortable around her. Shes.. amazing. Shes not like other girls. We do .. a lot of stuff together. Sometimes I just think about her. Its strange.. because.. I rarely think about anything let alone someone.
I think i really like her. The thing is... we are very .. happy the way we are. I dont want to ruin what we have, but sometimes I think about what it would be like... if we were together. I didnt think Id want to be in a relationship and Im not sure she really wants to be, but... I dont know. im not sure what to do. what if i asked and it scared her, or... what if... she said no but things changed. I dont want things to change I really would like her to stay in my life and Id likes us to still be us.
I just... wonder sometimes is all... Sometimes I think im just being stupid thinking this. But... what if i dont and i miss out on something that could be great.. something we could be?
i dont know.. maybe this is stupid...
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i dont know.
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Post by [ DEAR ABBY ?! ] on Apr 27, 2010 10:56:26 GMT -5
Dear so confused,
It sounds to me as if you have a bad case of puppy love. I've heard once that puppy love is not real, but I believe that it's real to the puppy. You say that you and your friend are happy the way you are and that's a good thing. It's good that you and she are comfortable with where your friendship has taken you. It is not stupid for you to wonder about how things could be different, especially if your feelings for your friend have continued to develop. It is natural to wonder about where things could go and if they would be better off staying the same. These are doubts that most people have when they are afraid of losing something they care deeply about.
I advise you to go ahead and ask her. Bring your thoughts and concerns to the table and allow her to make her own decisions. If your friendship is as strong as you say, then the possibility of losing that is slim. The worst that could happen would be that she might decide to remain friends, which you say is already a comfortable spot for you. Talking to girls about things like this can be unnerving, but it's important that you are upfront about your feelings to her.
It's not stupid at all. Don't miss out on an opportunity and have to wonder years later about how different things could have been had you done something else.
Abby
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